The Next Most Wholesome Thing: Tuning In to The Only Thing You Need to Know

My friend and I were on a hike, and I was processing how uncomfortable it was to feel so unclear about which choice to make regarding a big life decision. There were a couple options under consideration, but all I experienced when I thought about them was confusion. A wise, elder sister-type, she said to me, in a way that clearly came from experience,

“Maggie, we just don’t know until we know.”

I don’t always digest life lessons this well, but I’ve understood in my bones since that moment that it’s true, we simply do not and will not know… until we know.

I had been mentally skipping ahead, overwhelmed with fear that my confusion “meant” something, that it would last too long, that I must act, and if there was an answer I should have arrived there already. As if “answers” are something you get by squeezing harder, instead of one part of a time-based process that requires nourishment, digestion, and metabolism.

It is disorienting and frustrating to feel unclear, but I frame “not knowing” as a state. At some point the state will change, something will shift, and clarity will come (if and when you are open to what it has to say). Accepting the sense of not knowing supports this shift and our wellbeing in the meantime. From a place of acceptance…